Do you know any virgos that are users? Is that a virgo trait?

I am not going to stereotype Virgos as there are many wonderful Virgos in this world. However, I too have had the same problem with a Virgo relative. I do not think what your cousin and neighbor are intentionally using you. I think that maybe you have let them use you in the past when you had more time and now you don't have the time for their BS so I would take a few steps away from them and back off from them.. There are people out there that are opportunists that take advantage of what you own or take advantage of your good name. That is what happened to me. They enjoy nice things and going fun places and using your good name to assist them in getting the finer things in life. they are users and they come in all signs. You and I happen to have the Virgo opportunists. Be careful because when you stop doing "what they want you to do" they will get their last grab at what you have and then they are off to their next victim. That is why they stay in touch with old flames. They want to make sure that in case they run into a little trouble or need a place to stay or want some money that they want that door to be open for them. There is no reason to keep old boyfriends around. She wants to use them if the opportunity arises. Good thinking of you to put this together. I lost many things with my bad relationship with an opportunist. Back off and be as unavailable as you can. These types will show up anyway. Just don't text but when you do, always say you are too busy. "Sorry, I can't. I'm too busy." See, it is easy. Good luck and bless you. Hope this is helpful.